Grieving is good

 

14 March 2019

today I read something from Rick Warren's Daily Hope. it shared how grieving is good and how grieving allows me to let the loss, hurt, abandonment, and pain go.

 

from Daily Hope with Rick Warren:

Grief is not bad. It's the way we get thru the transitions of life. What is bad is the unprocessed grief. If I don't grieve, I get stuck emotionally, and I spend the rest of my life reacting to something that happened a long time ago. That's unhealthy!

 

my thoughts:

in Psalm 34:18 I am reminded that God is close to the brokenhearted. But when I am in the pain of the situation, I do not always "feel" God there. in fact, I think he is long gone and so far that there is no way he can be anywhere close to me. but Daddy is right there with me Psalm 147:3 says he is healing me.

 

from Daily Hope with Rick Warren:

Let God restore your soul by doing three things:

 

- Trust the Good Shepherd to forgive my sins. Romans 3:23, 24 says, "All of us have sinned and fallen short of God's glory. But God treats us much better than we deserve, and because of Christ Jesus, he freely accepts us and sets us free from our sins" (CEV)

 

- Release my offenders, and focus on the future. My soul cannot be restored until I let go of resentment. "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from u, along with all malice ... forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave u" (Ephesians 4:31, 32 ESV)

 

- Team up with Jesus to carry my burdens. When I am yoked up with Jesus, I don't have to bear my burden alone: "Come to me, all of u who r weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give u rest. Take my yoke upon u. Let me teach u, becuz I am humble and gentle at heart, and u will find rest for your souls. for my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give u is light" (Matthew 11:28-30 NLT)

 

Talk It Over

• Is there a loss that I have failed to grieve? How has it affected me physically, emotionally, and spiritually?
• What does it mean to have your soul restored?
• Why do I think God often feels far away when I am at my lowest point? What do I think he wants me to do when I feel like that?

my thoughts:

I want to focus on Why do I think God often feels far away when I am at my lowest point? and What do I think he wants me to do when I feel like that?

 

Why do I think God often feels far away when I am at my lowest point?

as I say here thinking about this question I immediately knew the answer. I can't see passed the end of my nose. in other words, all I see is the pain, abandonment, hurt, loss. I feel all alone and no one can help.

so Daddy showed me how he is holding me in his arms, pressing me up against his chest with my ear to his heartbeat. but I am not hearing the heartbeat or feeling his arms, at the time. all I see and hear is the pain, deep sadness, loneliness, and hurt. oh the pain! oh the hurt! the disbelief comes in and I am overwhelmed with all the thoughts of y? what am I gonna do now? how am I gonna live? God, where r u?

from the beginning of my grieving, Daddy has been there.

I have walked this for a few years now. I am only understanding that I am not alone.

 

What do I think he wants me to do when I feel like that?

let Daddy know I cannot feel his arms holding me against his chest so I can hear his heartbeat and his grief becuz I am grieving. be very real with God and let him know how much I am hurting. let him know.

but don't stay there, I need to let God be God and help me thru the grieving process. I need to reach out and let God use people so I can heal and grow again.

 

grieving is a natural process we all go thru no matter what the grieving is about. change is part of every day life. with change comes grief. let the change come and then when grieving is involved, walk thru it. DO NOT HOLD IT IN!